I came across this interesting read and i would like to share it with all of you out there,who are trying so hard to get what they actually want..
Asking people for what we want can sometimes be a difficult process involving awkward discussions and potential conflict. However, it doesn’t have to be that way.
The secret to getting what you want from other people is to develop a genuine sense of reciprocity by giving before you receive.
The term ‘reciprocity’ describes the expectation that people will respond to you in the same way that you respond to them. So if you give another person something of value, they will be much more inclined to give you something in return.
Next time you want something from someone, instead of simply asking or demanding what you want, try using the following Reciprocity Formula.
The Reciprocity Formula
Step 1: Analyse the situation from the other person’s point of view and try to identify what they currently want. If you
can’t figure out what they want, the best thing to do is to ask them.
Step 2: When you have identified the main thing they want, present your case by saying something like, “If I help you achieve…
[what they want], could we discuss… [what you want]. Most reasonable people will be open to this approach because they are receiving before they have to give.
Step 3: Follow through and help the other person achieve their objective. The more time and effort you put in during this step,
the more reciprocity you will develop.
Step 4: When you have achieved the objective you agreed upon, revisit your initial discussion and ask for what you originally
Personally, sometimes we really can’t fulfill the other person’s “Desiderata” (desired things) but just knowing that there is someone out there who is willing to listen and can at least try to help and solve the issue makes a big difference in ANOTHER’s life.. you never know when you will be needing their reciprocation back.